Single in the South: Knock, Knock ... by Chasity Boling

Knock, knock.

Who’s there? 

… No one. No one is there.

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If you are single and attempting to date in 2017, you know what I mean. Sometimes, there’s a period of silence. After you’ve been on a few dates and you think everything is going swell, the other person just stops communicating for some reason. A few days pass and you wonder why you haven’t heard from them. Did they lose interest? Did you just run out of things to talk about? Are they just not that into you? I’m ashamed to say that I have been guilty of this, as well. Life just gets busy and it’s easy to accidentally forget to send a text or call back. If you want to check in to see what’s going on and you don’t want to sound too aggressive, there is something my friends and I call “the knock.”

The concept is easy. You just send a simple message to get the conversation going again, so to speak. Perhaps a breezy message would gently nudge him to respond, just a knock to see if anyone’s home. Something like “Hey, how’s your week going?” or “How about this weather?” I know it may sound silly but it’s just a little conversation starter to keep the communication going. Or if you don’t mind being totally aggressive, just be honest and say “Hey, dude, are you going to ask me out or what?” 

The response on the other end could just be that they forgot or it could also be that they aren’t interested, in which case, you move right along to the next prospective bachelor. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t recognize your awesomeness. The trick, as I mentioned before, is to keep it breezy, unlike Monica Geller from this episode of Friends

What are some of your breezy or not so breezy moments?